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NOTICE OF SPECIAL GENERAL MEETING
Notice is hereby given that a Special General
Meeting of TECU Credit Union Co-operative
Society Limited will be held at the PETROTRIN
Sports Club, Guaracara Park, Pointe A Pierre, on
Thursday 18th September 2014 at 5.00 p.m.
2. Amendments to Bye Laws
i. Confidentiality Statement
ii. Fit and Proper Person
iii. Joint Accounts
3. Closing Remarks
On the day of the meeting, registration commences
at 2.30 p.m. Members are required to be seated by
By order of the Board of Directors
"He holds it in, Doc. He
goes off by himself in a
corner and you can see
him cold-sweating and straining
to keep it in."
These are typical statements
of parents whose children are
constipated. This is the opposite
of the verbal diarrhoea charac-
teristic of politicians who do
not "hold it in" and certainly
never go off by themselves.
With elections in the air, yes-
terday s budget should be a
good example of "not holding it
in." Already we have been told
that "poor" newborn babies will
be given a grant of $500 a
month for the first year of life.
That should last until elections.
How "poor" is to be defined
remains to be seen. Anyway this
grant will keep mothers depend-
ent and stop them from breast-
Most children who are consti-
pated are between the ages of
three and four and all of them
would have appeared to the
untrained eye to be normal,
healthy kids until they began to
In reality a majority have
probably been taught by their
parents to believe they are the
centre of the world and that
their every wish is the law.
Quite the little politician, really.
Spoilt is the overused word.
In the overwhelming majority
of cases, these children start
potty training before they are
ready. Potty training!
Training is defined as "to
teach (a person or an animal) a
skill or type of behaviour
through regular practice and
instruction"---a word better
suited to the military mind or to
making animals do tricks.
Most of the time parents start
to train their babies because
they want to put them into a
nursery and the nursery insists
that the children be potty-
Since it has become fashion-
able in Trinidad over the last 20
years to put children into nurs-
eries at the age of one or two,
we have people trying to teach
children to control their blad-
ders and their bowels before
they are that old. Many of these
children develop serious consti-
pation of the sort described
This is a not-unexpected
reaction. Some children react
strongly to being pressured,
before they are physiologically
or emotionally ready, for bowel
control. They initially respond
by trying to please their parents
and may even appear to be in
control of their bowels. After
all, it s quite possible to train a
parrot to talk.
In the same way it s possible
to train a one-or two-year-old
to sit on a potty and defecate.
It s a new game.
The children have no under-
standing of what they are doing.
It s fun and everybody is
pleased. The child is congratu-
lated and rewarded.
Too much rewarding can be a
setup for trouble in children.
After the first flush of victory,
the parents decrease their con-
gratulations and the child soon
realises that the fun is over.
Everyone expects her to contin-
ue doing this thing.
Since this is the classical age
of independence and selfishness
("the terrible twos") the child
reacts by holding onto its stools.
A couple of days go by, the
household is pressuring the
child to be "nice" and "do too-
too." Attention is once more
being focused on the child.
"This is lovely, I won t go off."
After a week, the water in the
original stool has been absorbed
and what you have there is a
little piece of rock which the
child now passes with great dif-
ficulty and discomfort. This
consolidates the child s decision
not to have a bowel movement.
A vicious cycle is about to be
set up: hold in...hard
in, etc. If this cycle is not inter-
rupted quickly it will become
very difficult to break.
A variant of this scenario is
the child who, after initial suc-
cess in the potty-training stakes,
refuses to go to the potty and
insists on doing his "thing" in
the diapers. Some of these chil-
dren are four and five years old.
The background is invariably
the same: too-early bowel train-
ing, either because of social
pressure or because of the mis-
taken belief that early or first in
children means the best.
In fact children, like adults,
are all different. Some children
may be ready to learn to control
their bowels at age two. The
majority become ready some
time between two and three
years old. During this year the
child s rectum becomes anatom-
ically capable of holding a larger
volume of stool.
At the same time the child s
brain becomes capable of under-
standing the social need for not
defecating in public.
The combination of both
these things as well as the
child s innate need to try to
become like mummy or daddy
makes it easy to teach, not
train, a child to control its bow-
els without any stress, punish-
ment or rewards. Just a normal
It is when the child begins to
show interest in the toilet, in
what the parents or brothers
and sisters are doing, that the
moment should be seized and
gentle encouragement given. In
this way, without any sweat,
you will find that your child has
been "toilet trained."
Now if we could only do the
same thing with some "money
training" for politicians.
DAVID E BRATT, MD
PRESSURING TO 'DO TOO-TOO' Too much rewarding
can be a setup for
trouble in children.
After the first flush of
victory, the parents
the child soon realises
that the fun is over.
Everyone expects her
to continue doing this
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