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They want to stay attracted to the
woman they met from the beginning and
also want that desire to continue
throughout their lives. Your mentality as
a mother should not eliminate your sex
appeal as a woman. Find a good balance
between wife and mother, and keep that
passion alive! Many women tend to real-
ize this after a relationship has failed, and
they try to regain their lost sex appeal at
a late stage in life.
Keeping an active social life really helps
get you out of that domestic frame of
mind. Getting out of the house to mix
and mingle and have fun as a couple will
alleviate or maybe cast aside for a while,
any household burdens as parents. Make
time for an outing once per month to do
dinner, movies, drinks, dancing or even go
to a small event of your liking, such as a
theatre production, an art gallery, a sport-
ing event, a musical concert, and any-
thing that is being held locally.
Get Creative at Home
Use the resources you have to keep the
romance alive. Cook a romantic dinner to-
gether after the kids have gone to bed.
Why not have a late dinner once in a
while? Have a cocktail night, get some
great recipes online and experiment with
that blender in the kitchen! Feed each
other, have genuine talks, stay positive
and focused on each other during these
moments and try to not have discus-
sions on children and household issues.
Another great way to bond and lighten
your mood as a couple is having a game
night. Playing fun games together that
both you and your spouse enjoy over
some light snacks and drinks can be
loads of laughter. You can play board
games, online games, sing karaoke, and
even some video games on the PlaySta-
tion or Xbox! That competitive spirit be-
tween you and your spouse can be very
fun-loving and sexy!
The Element of Surprise
Being spontaneous can be very romantic.
As a couple, the daily routines can tend
to get boring and tiring. You can get
stuck in a rut of doing the same thing
day after day. Try to get creative and plan
little romantic surprises for each other.
This could be very simple, from buying
some fresh fruit, whipping cream and
bubbly wine at the grocery, and laying
out a lovely platter for bedtime. You can
have this yummy treat in bed after the
kids go to sleep. Chocolates and cake can
also be lovely surprises for your spouse
after a hard day of work and chores.
Occasionally, you can also surprise your
spouse with a spa voucher for a couples'
treat at a local spa. It's a great romantic
outing that is very therapeutic! Couples'
spa therapy can be very sensual and
bonding. Another great way to surprise
each other is also getting the kids in-
volved in planning a lovely meal for your
spouse. Involve them in the cooking and
setting up a nice area for dining at home,
have them pretend play as waiters/wait-
resses and restaurant hosts! They can do
the fun duties whilst you and the spouse
dine away by candlelight. The children
will have a blast doing this.
Romance through Hobbies
A couple that plays together stays to-
gether. Get involved in some fitness ac-
tivities as a couple! Whether it is going to
the gym, bike riding, yoga, running, there
are many activities that you and your
spouse can do that will enable you to
spend quality time with each other.
These activities can take as little as 30
minutes daily, or as often as you can and
it makes good bonding time!
The Way You View Each Other
Becoming a parent can change perspec-
tives and dynamics in a relationship that
can cause much detriment and strain.
Women must not treat or view their
husband like a child and take the moth-
erly role to an exaggerated extent of be-
littling and berating their spouse. Men
can view their spouses as domestic help
and basic administrators, where they
lose sight of the woman in her capacity
as a romantic partner.
The relationship can deteriorate into one
of specialized roles only, focused on the
children and household. Many people can
get lost in this type of life and not realize
that their romantic relationship has
dwindled. It's important to not lose the
right perspective and respect for each
other as a couple.
Valentine's is just days away. Why not
take the opportunity to re-commit as a
Suzette Camacho is the founder of
Trini Moms, the first parenting net-
work in Trinidad and Tobago. Check
their website Trini-Moms.com or their
Facebook page for upcoming events
for kids and the entire family.
February 8, 2015 www.guardian.co.tt Sunday Guardian
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By Suzette Camacho
BEING A COUPLE with children can translate
into hectic lifestyles, losing your sense of self, a
dwindling romantic relationship, and sheer ex-
haustion. We wonder about how life changes so
much after having children. Many people change,
yes, they change after becoming a parent.
Women can tend to take on a motherly role
with extreme vigour and neglect their relation-
ship with their spouse. Men can get consumed
with responsibility of providing for their families
and bearing an additional burden, leading to ad-
ditional stress, coupled with their spouse not
being focused on them due to the extra focus on
the children. How can both parents keep that
spark alive amongst the hustle and bustle of
Ditch the Mom Jeans!
Ladies, do not change your image from an ap-
pealing wife to a dowdy mother. Uplift your
image, be sexy, stay trendy and most impor-
tantly, maintain a vibrant, charismatic and spon-
taneous personality for your spouse. Don't lose
sight of your physical appearance because you
are too busy with the children. Get a makeover
after giving birth; hair, nails, wardrobe, the works!
Let's face it, men don't like to be reminded of
their mothers via their spouses.
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