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By Roslyn Carrington
THEY SAY THE DEVIL is in the details. I'm wondering,
do men even notice details? Do they even care about all
the little things we do to make ourselves more attrac-
tive to them? A man recently said to me, "I don't know
why you women bother painting your toenails. We don't
notice; we don't care." Now, the amount of money I have
spent over the years on pedicures and brow waxes could
probably finance a vacation for two in the South of
France, and here was this man, informing me that I have
been wasting my time? I just had to ask around. The re-
sults were interesting.
MEN DO NOTICE
Both women and men responded that men do notice,
and most of the time, they like what they see. However,
they're more likely to focus on the big picture, than
bother their pretty little heads over whether your lipstick
shade is Vampish Vermillion or Kiss-Me-Quick Carmine.
And hygiene trumps style any day.
"We love it when women make the effort."
"For me it might be more important to be well-put to-
gether (nail polish might be less important than clean
fingernails, for example)."
"Men notice everything! And they appreciate women
who take the time to see about themselves."
"My wife does the kind of pampering that's necessary
and I love it all. That time and dedication, followed by the
hot looks and tantalizing fragrances, take my breath
away. Don't wanna miss a beat!"
IT'S WHAT YOU DON'T DO THAT TURNS THEM OFF
They are more likely to spot the ABSENCE of good care
rather than the PRESENCE of it. In other words, your
pedi might escape their attention, but rough, callused
feet scraping against their skin will certainly be noticed ...
and not in a good way.
"He may not say anything when I have everything to-
gether, but if my nails are chipped or my hair needs
doing, he'll say something."
"Calloused heels are a no-no. You're getting strong in-
ducements and suggestions to go spa for that!"
"They may not notice all the details when you're looking
good. But what they would notice is when you're NOT look-
ing good. Men wouldn't go with a girl who looks busted."
SOMETIMES, THAT CAN BE ANNOYING
When your man turns into the Fashion Police, it can feel
as if his expectations are a little higher than you're pre-
pared to go.
"He is always meticulously pressed, but I just throw
something on when I'm leaving the house. I can't tell you
how many times I've heard, 'Is that what you're wear-
"Mine notices everything; if I change my polish, if my
eyebrows aren't done evenly... And it's nice for a change
having a guy notice when you do something different,
but it could also be a bit annoying at times, as you feel
the pressure to be on point."
"The only man I want understanding my haircut is my
THE CLOWN LOOK, HOWEVER, IS ALWAYS A NO-NO
If you want a man to notice you, slathering on the paint
is an effective --- but not necessarily successful --- way
to go about it.
"Everything in moderation. Give us a chance to like you
when you're not 'all made up', too."
"Makeup, they don't really notice, unless there isn't any
at all or way too much."
SOME FEEL UNDER PRESSURE TO NOTICE --- AND
ARE TERRIFIED TO VOICE THEIR OPINIONS
"I know from long and bitter experience that it upsets a
girl when I don't notice even small changes. Which obvi-
ously means I'm guilty. I do appreciate her making an ef-
fort, but give us a break..."
"A serious girlfriend went to the hairdresser as a good-
looking woman with well-proportioned features and
came back with her long black hair in curtains around a
suddenly-prominent nose. Maybe the hairdresser was
trying out a new style. She walked through the door; I bit
my tongue. Ten minutes later came the question: "Well,
do you like it?" I explained --- loved her, hated it --- and I
think deep down she understood, but the atmosphere
that evening was dark."
WHY DO WE NEED TO HAVE TO PLEASE THEM,
Of course, the question raised some hackles as to why
we need to gild the lily just to get a man's attention.
"This is more women as consumer items -- depressing!"
ULTIMATELY, OVERWHELMINGLY, WOMEN AGREED
THAT WE LOOK NICE FOR OURSELVES FIRST
"I don't spend time and money to look nice for men...I do
it for myself. Whether they notice or not is irrelevant."
"We do it for ourselves to feel good. So when we're on
the date, our confidence transmits, and they in turn feel
positive and everybody feels good!"
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