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IF YOU DON'T KNOW ME and you only
piece together who I am from my Face-
book posts, you'd surmise:
• She's a bit of an over-poster of pic-
tures of her twin toddler girls.
• She goes running a lot and likes to
post about it.
• She obviously loves where she lives
because she's always posting photos
of fall leaves, trails and mountain
• She posts way more than her husband
• She seems a little over-happy. Maybe
she likes attention?
Okay, mostly true. But there's more to
Have you heard all the buzz that Face-
book allows you to create this fake
image of who you are and what your life
is like so you can make your friends
green with envy? You put out all the
good stuff on your newsfeed and conve-
niently leave out the bad so you can ap-
pear like you won the life lotto. Facebook
is like your own little public relations
platform for YOU.
We are all more than what we post on
• I love my husband so much!
• Or, here's a pic of my pedicured feet
under a palm tree, toes pointing to the
ocean of a tropical island.
• Check out my award-winning kids.
• Doesn't my skin look fabulous in this
Yes, Facebook can seem a little bit like a
never-ending high school reunion---
everyone caring about how they show
up. It might be easy to believe some-
one's life is always palm trees and pedi-
cures, but there's life beyond our
newsfeeds. So, I'm calling B.S. on the no-
tion that Facebook allows you to be fake
and fool the world with your fairy tale
Do you really think someone's life is a
sum total of their Facebook posts?
If you start thinking other people are liv-
ing your fantasy life, just remember this
little gem: "It's never as good as it seems,
and it's never better." -- George Bernard
Facebook isn't the complete picture of
someone's life. The only way you could
create a perfect life via Facebook is if
people scrolling your newsfeed believe it.
We all have struggles and less than stel-
lar moments behind the scenes---
whether we post about them or not.
And wouldn't you rather read about tri-
umphs, funny stuff, positive news, and
the small wins of your family and friends
than complaints and negativity?
The notion that someone might think I
have (or am trying to create) an ideal life
from my Facebook posts makes me gig-
Know what I don't post?
• The giant mess and chaos that ensues
when I am bathing my twin toddlers
and one poops. In. The. Tub.
• How irritable I feel when I don't get
enough sleep too many nights in a
• The way I feel flooded with guilt when
my girls just want to play with me,
their little arms stretched toward me
and I have to shut my door and say
"Mommy has to work now," as a fam-
ily friend takes care of them during the
• The reason I exercise so much: I don't
want to become an overweight person
• And I don't post that I am absolutely
desperate to someday pee alone
again. If a toddler isn't toddling behind
me to the bathroom, our needy dog is
on my heels. Sigh.
My life behind my Facebook posts is
probably just like your life: it's a juggling
act. Mine involves: Work. Clients. Tod-
dlers. Meal prep. Exercise. Co-running
the household with my hubs. Family.
Never running out of milk. You know,
regular 'ol life. I happily call it the fun
house of crazy.
Maybe we shouldn't worry if people are
trying to present their best selves on
Facebook. I think it's okay to let Face-
book be Escapebook. I figure you are
smart enough to know my life isn't
ONLY what I post. I know you have
enough of your own stuff that you don't
need a boatload of mine clogging up (or
dragging down) your newsfeed. Maybe
we give each other a break and allow
each other to shine on Facebook? Do
you really want more people to post
about their headaches? How they hate
Mondays? How they aren't getting any
Happiness is contagious, so I am going
to give your fabulous Facebook posts a
LIKE. I am going to keep on cheering
your positive newsfeed. I know that you
are so busy living this remarkably imper-
fect and challenging life, that if you want
to present your best self on Facebook,
that's perfectly okay by me.
I know that you are so busy living this
remarkably imperfect and challenging life, that
if you want to present your best self on
Facebook, that's perfectly okay by me.
By Sandra Bienkowski, courtesy Chris Freytag
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