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Limiting beliefs are, quite simply, any
belief that "limits" you.
This belief may be specific to your goal
or it may be more general. For example,
your goal may be to become financially inde-
pendent, and you have the thought, "I can-
not even make the money to pay my bills!"
Your belief may be, "This is impossible, I
cannot do it, I am incapable." Your belief
may be part of a larger belief system such
as "Money is the root of all evil," or "You
can t make money doing something creative,"
or "Only greedy people are financially inde-
pendent." Limiting beliefs restrict your choic-
es in life.
Typical examples of
limiting beliefs are:
"I don t have a creative bone in my body."
"Money is the root of all evil, so if I want
to be good I can t be financially independ-
"What s the point of going on a diet, I ll
just gain the weight right back."
"I don t deserve to be happy."
"All the good men/women are already
"Romantic relationships cause pain."
"I will never be happy."
"My life is harder than other people s."
"If you want something done right, you ve
got to do it yourself."
"People are out to get me."
"I am a failure."
Beliefs are often seen as "truth" or "fact"
or "just the way it is." Look at what you
believe is "true" and then ask: is this "truth"
helping me or hindering me in my life?
How would you identify a limiting belief?
Often a limiting belief appears as a feeling
of hopelessness, worthlessness or helpless-
ness. It might show up as a feeling of futility,
overwhelm, fatigue, frustration, doubt, worry,
fear, regret, anger and so on.
What I believe about my goal
Spend a few minutes writing down every-
thing you believe about your goal. Write
down any reasons, feelings, facts or beliefs
about why you cannot start, pursue or com-
plete this goal.
Simply write free form, without editing.
Now review those notes and write a summary
statement for each belief, truth or fact, about what
stands between you and your goal. What stops you?
What hinders you?
I cannot take that promotion because I ll have to
travel more and my children would feel abandoned.
I can t afford to buy a new car.
My wife/husband won t let me go back to school.
I can t go back to school at my age.
What s the point of exercising, I ll just gain the
I am not smart enough.
Write your summary statements on a writing pad.
For each statement, ask yourself, if this belief were
not true, what would be true? This is called reframe,
and it begins to open your mind up to new possi-
You may have more than one reframe for each
Belief: I cannot get that promotion because I ll
travel more and my children would feel abandoned.
Reframe: The additional money from my promotion
allows me to do fun activities with the children.
Reframe: I can get my promotion and spend time
with the children too.
Belief: I can t afford to buy a new car.
Reframe: I have the ability to attract the money
I need for a new car.
Reframe: I can t afford NOT to buy a new car! My
old car is falling apart!
Belief: My husband won t let me go back to school.
Reframe: I do not need permission to go to school.
I make my own decisions.
Reframe: My husband and I will grow closer as
we share my new experiences at school.
Write reframes for your summary statements on
your writing pad asking yourself the following ques-
tion: if this belief were not true, what would be true?
What is an anchor?
An anchor is simply an "external" stimulus that
creates an "internal" state or response. Your brain
will light up specific neural pathways when you are
in a state of anger, joy, fear, courage, confidence,
motivation, clarity, concentration, or any other feeling
When you are in these states, you can set an anchor
for that state. Setting anchors will build up these
inner resources and help you succeed.
More about anchors
You experience anchors every day. When someone
"pushes your button" and you react, that is an anchor.
Then you wonder, "Why did I act that way?"
Songs are powerful anchors. Play a song and one
person will laugh, while another will cry, depending
on their past experience.
The founders of NLP realised if an anchor can
create negative reactions in people, then anchors
should also be able to create positive reactions. In
the next exercise you will use anchors to elicit and
build up inner resources.
How does it work?
Your subconscious mind is very powerful, like a
supercomputer, and it takes in everything around
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