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In this month's issue, I am sharing letters sent in by our read-
ers to answer various queries about their upcoming weddings.
Do enjoy, and please continue to send us your comments, ad-
vice and words of wisdom to email@example.com
I am having a very small wedding. My wife to be
wants it to be quite extravagant. It is only 50 people
and I am adamant that it should not be increased. I am
concerned that she has gone overboard already.
Men and women view weddings differently.
I understand your practical view as well. This is her
BIG DAY and may be the biggest one of her life.
Since you are already spending on clothing, rings,
venue, photographer, etc., you may want to in-
crease your guest list -- if it's practical -- and opt for
setting up an account for financial gifts. Discuss
this objectively with your wife-to-be as she may
want her loved ones around her and not want to
leave anyone out. This might be more feasible
so that you refrain from getting into debt.
I am soon to be married for the second time and
did not have all the trimmings at my first wed-
ding. I also want to wear white even though my
bridal party is opposed to it.
White is the traditional colour favoured
by most brides and you can truthfully
wear any colour you like. This is your
day and you should have the freedom
to wear white, pink, ivory, etc. I hope
your bridal party will wear the colours
you choose as well. If you are not firm
on certain things then you may end up
with an unending list of suggestions you
may not like. It's your day; let it all be a
reflection of your taste and style.
I am having a backyard wedding because
most of our guests have small kids. I want it
to be classy and not like a picnic or barbecue.
Suggestions will be welcome.
Dear Cherry Ann,
This may prove to be challenging. Depending on
the area and the number of guests, you may wish
to rent some tents in case of bad weather. Some
rental companies also prepare flooring too. Your
décor should be more formal for this occasion.
Some things to consider would be adequate bath-
room facilities, parking, noise levels and adequate
space and lighting (among others).
You do have flexibility with using floral arches,
centrepieces that coordinate with your décor, etc.
Storage challenges may be a problem though. As
such, you may want to avoid doing buffet style to
make it more formal. I hope the event turns out to
be what pleases you and enjoy the savings in rent-
ing alternative facilities.
I just got married and had a beautiful wedding
with only about 20 people. We were saving for our
home and used the money for that. A lot of our rela-
tives were disappointed but I do have some regrets.
It is good to start your life in your own home
and even better if it is debt-free. I understand
not having those you wanted to share the mo-
ment. Maybe later on or within a few months
you can have them all over to your home. This
does not have to cost you a fortune if you plan
well. Some couples even do a reception when
they can. Have fun and enjoy your life together.
I am getting married to a divorcee with two small
children in 2016. Their mother wants them to be in
the wedding party or else she will keep them away
from the wedding. How can I keep everyone happy?
This is a decision you and your future spouse
should discuss. He may want them there and if
they are very young (and may not need their
mother's presence), it may be an option. Tradi-
tionally the bride chooses her attendants and
the groom chooses his. Consider the feelings of
all. To start a happy life, I suggest you may want
to include them as you integrate them into your
life. Their mother will be a constant presence and
while she should not be dictating things, you
may have to compromise sometimes. Lose
smaller battles but later win bigger wars. It
comes with the territory when ex-wives and kids
are involved. I wish you the best.
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