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I find myself engrossed in the hustle and bustle of life and
I get home every day feeling restless, dissatisfied and un-
fulfilled with, well, everything. I observe successful people
living extraordinary lives and I wish the same for myself.
My question is simple: How do I live a better life?
From an early age, we are made to believe that one day
we will be happy, that we will work hard enough, achieve
all of our goals and aspirations, or even marry the right
person, and in time we will find happiness, find purpose,
or live an extraordinary life. But happiness is a mood that
you consciously choose; we have to either work for it or
develop little disciplines and habits that will make our lives
1. Practice Gratitude & Humility
Wake up each day and be thankful and appreciative what
you have. Oftentimes we take for granted the things like
the ability to breathe, speak, walk and talk. To love and to
laugh. Even to live freely. Only by acknowledging your
blessings will more blessings be revealed. Remain humble
as life presents you with gifts and successes.
Approach each day with a new and better perspective. Try
to see beauty in you and in everything. Smile, and sur-
round yourself with people that support you and feed your
mind. While we are presented with unfortunate circum-
stances, it is in our thoughts that we are able to manage
our understanding of things. Positive thoughts develop
positive feelings and attract positive experiences.
Put your best foot forward in everything you do. Whether
it be applying your makeup, brushing your teeth, develop-
ing a presentation, or simply showing up on time, put em-
phasis in the way you approach each task. Spread love and
inspiration to everyone and everything, every day.
I am 34 years old, and this is my biggest challenge to date.
When I was a little girl, my mother would encourage us to
unplug and prepare for bed, and what that meant was to,
cease all activities an hour or two before our bedtime to
condition our mind for sleep. Our minds do not stop run-
ning up until the moment we fall asleep, and if not man-
aged well, it will translate negatively into our sleep. On
days you do not have strict schedules and ballet recitals,
either sleep in late or nap in-between to boost your sys-
tem and your state of mind. When I practice this method
and make sleep an activity, I am my best self, mentally,
physically and emotionally. Treat yourself to sleep.
Learn to cherish the people in your life and allocate a
percentage of your time to nurturing those relationships
holistically, whether it be your family, your partner, or
your spouse. Engage in more healthy conversations,
share genuine concerns and simple activities to help you
build a sound reinforcement for life's challenges. There
is an unspoken power that we develop through intimate
Buddha said, "The secret of health for both mind and body
is not to mourn for the past or worry about the future, but
to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly". At a
very young age I was enrolled in the School of Philosophy.
We were taught to meditate by simply sitting in a chair,
closing our eyes and observing our surroundings. I would
hear things far in the distance that I usually wouldn't, be-
cause my mind was always at work. This allowed me to
accept and become one with the present. When setting
goals or reassessing your mistakes, try to be minimal and
responsible in your thinking, and plan, visualize and imple-
ment new mental changes. There is no distance on this
earth as far away as yesterday.
The only way to live calmer and stress-free lives is by giv-
ing a mental pass to things that are ultimately irrelevant.
We place too much energy and emphasis on situations
that require limited or no thought. Simplify and declutter
your mind. Life becomes easier when we accept the apol-
ogy we never got. Eliminate nonessential possessions and
people that don't add value to your life.
Incorporate activities that bring you joy, like new hobbies,
visiting new places, meeting new people, and trying new
things. Do things that excite your heart, your mind and your
soul. Kick the bucket list and say hello to your dream list.
Give back to the world in whatever form you choose. Add
value to other people's lives. Spend each day making at
least one life or situation better than you met it.
Try to adopt a healthy appetite for good food. Spend time
with God. Share your dreams, your fears, your accomplish-
ments and the things you aren't too proud of. Your secrets
are safe with Him. And finally, give LOVE! Share LOVE!
And be open to LOVE! Michelle, remember we only get
this one life, so make the best of it and evaluate what 'ex-
traordinary' means to you. For me it means quality of life
and peace of mind. Living an extraordinary life doesn't nec-
essarily mean doing extraordinary things, but placing
value and emphasis on the things that are important, and
making the best of every situation, thus increasing the
probability of your happiness. Relax! Regroup! SMILE!
Luv you, doll... Good luck...
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