Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : March 6th 2016 Contents March 6, 2016 • Page 2
Leah Sahadeo will celebrate her 11th birthday on
March 14. Wishing her all the best from her mom, dad
and brother, Ronson.
Vidal Kade Maharaj will celebrate his fifth birthday on
Dear Birthday Club kids and parents:
Send your birthday photos to us at: email@example.com. If you send actual photos you need to be
returned, please check for them at the security desk at reception in our Rodney Road, Chaguanas, office.
"Come on! All of us are skipping math. Who wants to go
take that quiz? We're going to take a walk and get lunch
instead. Let's go!" says the coolest kid in your class. Do you
do what you know is right and go to math class, quiz and
all? Or do you give in and go with them?
As you grow older, you'll be faced with some challenging
decisions. Some don't have a clear right or wrong answer
--- like should you play soccer or hockey? Other decisions
involve serious moral questions, like whether to cut class,
try cigarettes, or lie to your parents.
Making decisions on your own is hard enough, but when
other people get involved and try to pressure you one way
or another it can be even harder. People who are your age,
like your classmates, are called peers. When they try to
influence how you act, to get you to do something, it's
called peer pressure. It's something everyone has to deal
with---even adults. Let's talk about how to handle it.
Dealing with peer pressure
Peers influence your life, even if you don't realise it, just
by spending time with you. You learn from them, and they
learn from you.
Peers can have a positive influence on each other. You
might admire a friend who is always a good sport and try
to be more like him or her. Maybe you got others excited
about your new favourite book, and now everyone's
reading it. These are examples of how peers positively
influence each other every day.
Sometimes peers influence each other in negative ways.
For example, a few kids in school might try to get you to
cut class with them or your soccer friend might try to
convince you to be mean to another player.
Some kids give in to peer pressure because they want to
be liked, to fit in, or because they worry that other children
might make fun of them if they don't go along with the
group. Others go along because they are curious to try
something new that others are doing. The idea that
"everyone's doing it" can influence some kids to leave their
better judgment, or their common sense, behind.
It is tough to be the only one who says "no" to peer
pressure, but you can do it. Paying attention to your own
feelings and beliefs about what is right and wrong can
help you know the right thing to do. Inner strength and
self-confidence can help you stand firm, walk away, and
resist doing something when you know better.
It can really help to have at least one other peer, or
friend, who is willing to say "no," too. This takes a lot of
the power out of peer pressure and makes it much easier
to resist. It's great to have friends with values similar to
yours who will back you up when you don't want to do
If you choose friends who don't use drugs, cut class,
smoke cigarettes, or lie to their parents, then you probably
won't do these things either, even if other children do. Try
to help a friend who's having trouble resisting peer
pressure. It can be powerful for one person to join another
by simply saying, "I'm with you---let's go."
Even if you're faced with peer pressure while you're
alone, there are still things you can do. You can simply stay
away from peers who pressure you to do stuff you know
is wrong. You can tell them "no" and walk away. Better yet,
find other friends and classmates to pal around with.
If you continue to face peer pressure and you're finding
it difficult to handle, talk to someone you trust. Don't feel
guilty if you've made a mistake or two. Talking to a parent,
teacher, or school counsellor can help you feel much better
and prepare you for the next time you face peer pressure.
Powerful, positive peer pressure
Peer pressure is not always a bad thing. For example,
positive peer pressure can be used to pressure bullies into
acting better toward other children. If enough of you get
together, peers can pressure each other into doing what's
Renaldo McEachnie, left, during an interview about being an aspiring athlete in Concorde Athletic Club, at One
Woodbrook Place, on March 1. PHOTO COURTESY BOOK TT
Links Archive March 5th 2016 March 7th 2016 Navigation Previous Page Next Page