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THE JONES RECAP
Many times we read amazing anec-
dotes about couples who had unique
weddings and engagements. I know just
like me, most of you keep wondering
where are they now? Are they still
together? Is life really a fairytale? The
lists goes on. WOW Magazine will be
doing a series of where are these couples
now, along with a synopsis of their
original published wedding story. Today
we will start with the Jones.
The official engagement for the Jones
was actually on Valentine’s Day 2016. In
fact the couple spoke about getting mar-
ried over the years and set their wedding
date and purchased their wedding bands,
but never once was there a proposal. So
to Karlene’s surprise when her flowers
bringing, gift and chocolate toting, ring
bearing boyfriend appeared in their room
with knees bent to propose, she was left
speechless and in tears, but this is what
set the tone for their wedding.
The Jones started off as secondary
school sweethearts, but as life progressed,
lost touch with each for about 20 years
and when they reconnected their attrac-
tion to each other was instantly rekindled
and much deeper than before, and so too
was their courting period.
Feeling that change in where her future
was heading, Karlene began on a journey
of self-reflection and discernment, which
inevitably factored into the hows and whys
of their wedding day. After doing much
research and discovering the history of
her ancestors, Karlene decided to take the
bride plunge under Yoruba rights.
“From the beginning of our marriage
conversation, I told my husband-to-be
that I wanted something that was mean-
ingful and something that embraced my
African history,” Karlene explained, “if I
were to practice any rituals, it would have
to come from my ancestors”.
It was more than just an African themed
wedding. Her first step was finding a
priest, who actually lived very close to
her, Priest Baba Erin Folami. It was he
who gently guided them through the other
Another process was the divination.
“We did a Yoruba Tribe divination before
the actually wedding day, which the priest
officiated. In this ritual, we were told if
we were right for each other, whether the
union was a blessing and where were given
our African names...Ifakemy (Karlene) and
Ifasola (Kwame), among other things. It
was then on to the wedding day.
On the wedding day, Chief Alagbaa, the
masquerader who represents our ancestor,
greeted everyone at the door. During the
ceremony I was placed on the left of my
husband, while we continued the rites.
“Another ritual, the tasting of the elements
is one of the many practices that is meant
for bonding”. In this ritual couples followed
by the family taste items such as salt,
honey, rum, salt fish, guinea pepper, Ob
and palm oil just to name a few. Subse-
quently following these customs was the
traditional signing of papers.
“The families were asked to join the
couple on stage where the males would
wrap cloth around and tied them to the
females”. This is seen as the binding of
families procedural. “The males all stood
outside the females while holding the cloth
and making protective vows or prayers.
The priest then asked the two eldest males
(the fathers) to stand outside of the entire
group with swords also making vows that
they will be leaders”, Karlene revealed.
In hindsight, if Karlene aka Ifakemy,
had to do it all over again she would do
it the same way. Tracing her roots, find-
ing herself marrying her soul mate and
doing it the Yoruba way was nothing short
of fulfilling for the Jones’.
Ten months later Karlene explains that
they still go out on dates, take long walks,
and continue to talk for hours. From the
day she was married until now it has been
wonderful everyday. “We learn something
new as a couple growing together, my
husband is my rock, we communicate a
lot and he is everything a woman could
ask for. For that, I make it my business
to keep him happy,” she revealed.
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