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Children and a Healthy
Dose of Vitamin NO
DR N. CARRINGTON
Psychologists are prescribing a healthy dose of vitamin
NO to children with overindulgent parents. The social
experts say vitamin NO is necessary to create well-round-
ed human beings.
Noted child psychologist, Dr John Rosemond, posited that
some children are suffering the predictable ill-effects of
overindulgence. He said the absence of vitamin NO is affect-
ing their emotional and mental health.
Rosemond advises parents to use the Principle of Benign
Deprivation. This involves giving children 100% of what they
need but only 25% of what they want.
The reality is that children deserve parents who attend to
their needs by providing affection and direction rather than
wimpy parents afraid to dish out a good dose of vitamin
NO. That vitamin teaches children how to be responsible
individuals as children learn what they live and then live what
A conversation with a respected acquaintance, who inter-
acts with several youth groups, revealed that one of the young
boys under her care boasts of his mom's overindulgence. She
was doing everything for him at home and he laughed at his
friends because they did chores. Unknowingly, the mother is
setting up her son for failure. He will not learn responsibil-
ity if he does not contribute to his wellbeing by taking part
in productive activity, which should start, at home. As that
child is given everything, although he works for nothing, he
is learning to receive but not give or even show appreciation.
Of course, one can argue that the mother wants her son
to be happy, however, the reality is that she is teaching him
that happiness comes from taking and not giving.
Sadly, this seems to be the prevailing attitude of many
young persons in today's society . Social scientists say it is
responsible for developing poor work ethics from the pri-
mary school level. It also leads to children expecting to pass
for the best secondary schools and achieve passes at Ordinary
level and Advanced level exams without working for it.
It's the same attitude children take to University ---if they
go that far. All throughout their lives, they continue along
that path and somehow believe they will succeed. It is also
partly responsible for the level of lawlessness in the society;
take , by any means, what others have toiled for.
It's no wonder too some children are terrible students and
employees and frustrate teachers, employers and themselves.
In essence, children need to be taught how to be produc-
tive citizens. The training begins at home with 'chores'. They
should be encouraged to help out at home in various ways.
Also, parents must understand there are no 'girl chores' and
'boy chores'. All chores are created equal and should be shared
To achieve a specific goal parents must make a roster and
put it in a highly visible place. Parents' names and allotted
tasks should be there too, as they must lead by example.
Leading by example also means children cannot be given
most of what they want and parents must stop saying "well
I didn't have that as a child but my child will get it'.
As parents we cannot honestly say being denied certain
material things, when we were growing up, negatively impact-
ed on us throughout their lives.
To wrap up, children must be taught responsibility. It starts
with a healthy dose of vitamin NO.
Dr N. Carrington is a successful parent, educator and
Goodwood High School students, who participated in last Friday's (March 10) "World of Work" Programme. The students learned about
resume writing, how to look the part when attending a job interview, and participated in a job interview to have a taste of the working
It is with a growing sense of disgust and alarm,
That I observe the growing 'governance of harm'
It's engulfing both our lands you know,
but especially our island Tobago.
Mr. Augustine of the PDP won his seat fairly,
while still the PNM-THA's employee.
Is this a good reason why his salary
Was not paid for the month of February?
Yet again, it seems we can only imitate
The worst aspects of America the so-called
We seem to have all the use for cable,
clothes and BET
But no use for their Supreme Court history.
Adler v Board of Education, 1952:
"You have a constitutional right
to say what you want to,
But no right to government employment have
By 1967 the same court say:
"public employment cannot force
surrender of constitutional rights." No Way!
Fellow Trinbagonians, we have a constitution
Which guarantees every citizen the right to
freedom of thought, conscience, and expression.
Trinidad and Tobago is many things,
But it is not a fiefdom, a communist
or a fascist slave-yard of kings,
In which people should have to choose
between their political convictions
And working for their nations'
The price of freedom is eternal vigilance.
We cannot afford to just look askance,
Just stand and watch others get burned at the
As if having both a government job and per-
sonal integrity is a mistake.
I agree with the American Supreme Court's
"premise that is new:
the government ought not to be able to do
indirectly what directly it cannot do."
If the government shouldn't directly fire you
because of your beliefs or convictions,
Then they shouldn't try to deprive
or silence you for those reasons.
It is clear to any right-thinking,
self-respecting Bagonian or Trini
That political views do not take away
from skill or ability.
Criminals are already taking advantage
of me and you
We cannot allow our government
to hold us and 'wuk' us too!
"the Freedom Fairy"
Copyright N. S. Job March 2017
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