Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : March 22nd 2017 Contents DEAR JANELLE,
My sister is very weird when it comes to her
child and I think it is bordering on ridiculous. This
girl doesn't want any pics of her child on social
media because she put up a cute picture once and
the child got a bad fever the following day.
No matter how much I try to tell her that that
makes no sense she insists that she doesn't want
people to see any pictures of her daughter.
Anyway, last Friday was my niece's birthday and
I decided to post a few cute shots of her on my
social media wall. Madam called me and started to
curse and carry on telling me to take them down.
When I told her to relax she got more upset and
called our mother and other family members to
complain. She even went as far as to report me to
Well, this girl has to be mad. I wash my hands
because I really don't see how a child could get
sick from that or why she always has to blow things
out of proportion.
I good. I will stay in my corner and she could
stay in hers.
Regardless of your point of view, you should
respect your sister's decision since your niece is
her daughter and she should have the final say. It
is quite possible for persons to have differing beliefs
yet agree to disagree. You may think that the link
to obeah/ or evil eyes by your sister is ridiculous
but she is entitled to her opinion.
We are all influenced by a number of things,
such as our upbringing, our culture, parental views
and although you might have had the same child-
hood experiences her reaction to them would have
shaped the adult that she has become. Put yourself
in your sister's shoes and try to understand her
motive. Even if you don't agree with someone's
opinion, at least agree with their right to have one.
Talk to your sister about the stance that she has
taken and I am certain that you would realise that
her desire is simply to protect her child. You went
against her wishes but your desire was simply to
show the world what a beautiful niece you have.
What you both have in common is love for this
child and that should be the main focus. Discuss
other ways of sharing your niece's picture such as
email or even a family newsletter.
You owe your sister an apology. Accept respon-
sibility for blatantly ignoring her wishes and move
on. Apologising can be difficult based on the length
of time that would have elapsed so the sooner the
Life is too short to let this issue ruin the rela-
tionship that you have with your sister.
I am concerned about how the situation turns
out so please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
to share the outcome.
tobagotoday.co.tt March 22 - 2017
... my sister is afraid of maljo
Norway happiest country in world
WASHINGTON - If you want to go to your happy place,
you need more than cash. A winter coat helps - and a
sense of community.
A new report shows Norway is the happiest country on
Earth, Americans are getting sadder, and it takes more than
just money to be happy.
Norway vaulted to the top slot in the World Happiness
Report despite the plummeting price of oil, a key part of
its economy. Income in the United States has gone up over
the past decade, but happiness is declining.
The United States was 14th in the latest ranking, down
from No. 13 last year, and over the years Americans steadi-
ly have been rating themselves less happy.
"It's the human things that matter. If the riches make it
harder to have frequent and trustworthy relationship between
people, is it worth it?" asked John Helliwell, the lead author
of the report and an economist at the University of British
Columbia in Canada (ranked No. 7). "The material can stand
in the way of the human."
Studying happiness may seem frivolous, but serious
academics have long been calling for more testing about
people's emotional well-being, especially in the United
States. In 2013, the National Academy of Sciences issued a
report recommending that federal statistics and surveys,
which normally deal with income, spending, health and
housing, include a few extra questions on happiness because
it would lead to better policy that affects people's lives.
Norway moved from No. 4 to the top spot in the report's
rankings, which combine economic, health and polling data
compiled by economists that are averaged over three years
from 2014 to 2016. Norway edged past previous champ
Denmark, which fell to second. Iceland, Switzerland and
Finland round out the top 5.
"Good for them. I don't think Denmark has a monopo-
ly on happiness," said Meik Wiking, chief executive officer
of the Happiness Research Institute in Copenhagen, who
wasn't part of the global scientific study that came out with
"What works in the Nordic countries is a sense of com-
munity and understanding in the common good," Wiking
Still, you have to have some money to be happy, which
is why most of the bottom countries are in desperate pov-
erty. But at a certain point extra money doesn't buy extra
happiness, Helliwell and others said.
Central African Republic fell to last on the happiness list,
and is joined at the bottom by Burundi, Tanzania, Syria and
The report ranks 155 countries. The economists have been
ranking countries since 2012, but the data used goes back
farther so the economists can judge trends.
The rankings are based on gross domestic product per
person, healthy life expectancy with four factors from glob-
al surveys. In those surveys, people give scores from 1 to
10 on how much social support they feel they have if some-
thing goes wrong, their freedom to make their own life
choices, their sense of how corrupt their society is and how
generous they are.
While most countries were either getting happier or at
least treading water, America's happiness score dropped 5
percent over the past decade. Venezuela and the Central
African Republic slipped the most over the past decade.
Nicaragua and Latvia increased the most.
Study co-author and economist Jeffrey Sachs of Colum-
bia University said in a phone interview from Oslo that the
sense of community, so strong in Norway, is deteriorating
in the United States.
"We're becoming more and more mean spirited. And our
government is becoming more and more corrupt. And
inequality is rising," Sachs said, citing research and analy-
sis he conducted on America's declining happiness for the
report. "It's a long-term trend and conditions are getting
University of Maryland's Carol Graham, who wasn't a
study author but did review some chapters, said the report
mimics what she sees in the American rural areas, where
her research shows poor whites have a deeper lack of hope,
which she connects to rises in addictions to painkillers and
suicide among that group.
"There is deep misery in the heartland," Graham, author
of the book "The Pursuit of Happiness," wrote in an email.
Happiness - and doing what you love - is more import-
ant than politicians think, said study author Helliwell. He
rated his personal happiness a 9 on a 1-to- 10 scale. (AP)
FILE - In this Sept. 7, 2016 file photo, a smiley face is seen on a
sunflower in a sunflower field (AP Photo)
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