Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : April 20th 2017 Contents help to imagine what you might say to
a close friend struggling with the same
issue. Can you say something similar to
yourself, exhibiting the same kindness?
(Adapted from "To Recover From
Failure, Try Some Self-Compassion,"
by Christopher Germer.)
5 things to
When your co-worker loses a loved
one, how can you best support him?
Depending on the person and the
timing, some approaches might work
better than others.
• Don’t ask how he’s doing or how
you can help. Try saying, “I’m thinking
of you,” or “I’ll check in from time to
• Don’t compare. Instead of going
into a long description about what was
helpful for you when you lost a loved
one, briefly let your colleague know
whether you’ve also lost someone,
and say, “I can’t imagine what this is
like for you."
• Don’t rush it. Ask him when or how
he’d like you to bring up your support
and condolences in person.
• Don’t track his progress. Instead
of saying, “Are you doing any better?”
simply try, “It’s good to see you.”
• Don’t think of this as a one-and-
done. Let your colleague know that
you’re around. Set a reminder to check
in with him every two weeks or so.
(Adapted from "How to Offer Sup-
port to a Grieving Colleague," by Sabina
Speak up in
meetings (even if
you're the most
junior person in
As a young professional, you might
worry that you’re too inexperienced
to speak up in a meeting. But unless
you participate, you won’t catch the
attention of your senior colleagues who
have the power to bring your career to
the next level.
Find something to share that will
make senior staff notice you; and your
Don’t underestimate the value of the
experience that you do have. You can
reference the projects you are currently
working on: “I’ve been seeing this top-
ic come up in emails with clients" or
“Amy asked about how this affects the
bottom line. Our team has been working
on this very issue, and here is how we
(Adapted from "Don't Let Inexpe-
rience Stop You From Participating
in Meetings," by Andy Molinsky and
Help a dawdling
employee pick up
What should you do if someone on
your team takes too long to accomplish
his work? Start by finding the source
of the sluggishness.
Your employee might be struggling
with a new task, or devoting too much
time to certain projects because he’s a
Don’t make assumptions. Even if
you have an idea of what the root cause
might be, ask the person directly. If
you approach the conversation with
curiosity, you’ll be better positioned
to brainstorm effective solutions. Give
your employee guidance on where you
want him to emphasise his time, and
on how long something should take.
If the situation gets better, be sure to
recognise his improved performance.
(Adapted from "How to Get an Em-
ployee to Work Faster," by Carolyn
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Even if you’re someone who typ-
ically gets flustered in the face of
pressure, you can train your brain
to be calmer when a stressful event
Make a list of five stressful
events from your past that you
were successful in solving (for
example, maybe you got through
the breakup of a relationship or met
a tight deadline on a big project).
The next time you feel your heart
starting to race, remind yourself of
those accomplishments --- and your
ability to chart a path forward --- by
looking at the list.
Choose a small, meaningful ac-
tion that you can take to get your
brain moving forward, even if it
doesn’t solve the problem.
(Adapted from "You Can Improve
Your Default Response to Stress," by
When you make
The next time you face a setback,
try taking a self-compassion break.
As soon as you notice that you’re
upset or under stress, see if you
can locate where the emotional
discomfort resides in your body.
Where do you feel it the most?
Then admit to yourself, "This is
hard" or "Other people feel this
way too.” If you’re having trouble
finding the right language, it can
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