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I have three children with a good- for- nothing man and it
is driving me crazy the way he does not take care of his chil-
dren. He is not there for them financially neither emotionally
and I can't take much more of it.
I threatened to take him to court but my relatives insist that
bringing up children in court would blight them. They assist
me from time to time but they have their own lives. I work
but the money never seems to be enough.
This period is particularly difficult for me because of the
added strain of having to purchase their school supplies. I think
it is time for me to take him before the magistrate because I
did not make these children alone. I am tired of denying my
children the basics while their father lives his life free and
happy. Additionally, he lives with a lady who has three children
with three different men and he is busy taking care of them.
Do you think that bringing up children through the court is
a bad thing? Should I tough it out and hope that they grow up
quickly? I don't know what else to do. Please help me.
DEAR SINGLE PARENT,
Every known civilisation that ever existed on the planet has
a commonality and that is the myths and superstitions that
were a vital part of their cultures. In Trinidad and Tobago, there
is no exception. Our cultural beliefs have shaped us and are
simply a part of who we are. However, the word superstition
is generally designated to those beliefs that result from ignorance
and fear of the unknown. Do not be afraid. The law exists for
the protection of all citizens, especially the most vulnerable.
If you are apprehensive, speak to him and find out if you
could come to an agreement about how much he can contrib-
ute and how often. If you are unable to do this on your own
seek the services of a trained mediator.
In the interim rethink the way that you speak to and about
him especially in the presence of the children. Do not refer to
him as "good- for -nothing" even if in your opinion this might
be a fitting description. Encourage him to be a part of their
lives by sending him pictures of the children, share their suc-
cesses etc. Additionally, encourage them to send him voice notes
and to communicate with him in general. Do not let the chil-
dren ask for money; let that be an adult conversation. Try not
to limit communication only to those times when something
It is difficult to always have to go the extra mile to encour-
age someone to do something that they should be duty-bound
to perform but try to be the bigger person since your children
would be the ones to benefit.
However, If all else fails and this man continues to abdicate
his responsibility the law is on your side and you should not
hesitate to do what is necessary for the well- being of your
...should I take him to court?
True Blood' actor
Nelsan ellis dead
NEW YORK (AP) --
Actor Nelsan Ellis, best
known for his memora-
ble portrayal of Lafay-
ette Reynolds on HBO's
"True Blood," has died
at the age of 39.
Ellis' manager, Emily
Gerson Saines, con-
firmed the actor's death
in an email Saturday. The
which was first to report
Ellis' death, quoted her
as saying the actor died
from complications of
actor, who studied at
Juilliard, played the role
of Lafayette, a gay short
order cook, on the HBO
drama from 2008 to
2014, and more recently
appeared in the CBS
detective series "Ele-
mentary." He also was a
playwright and a stage
Ellis appeared as Mar-
tin Luther King, Jr. in Lee
Daniels' "The Butler,"
and as singer Bobby Byrd
in the James Brown biop-
ic "Get On Up."
He also appeared in
"The Help," and his cast-
mate Octavia Spencer
mourned his death on
Instagram. "My heart
breaks for his kids and
family," the actress
On Twitter, some fans
posted one of his more
famous scenes as Lafay-
ette, where the character
marches out of the kitch-
en to confront some big-
HBO released a state-
ment saying the network
was "extremely sad-
dened" by Ellis' death.
"Nelsan was a long-
time member of the HBO
family whose ground-
breaking portrayal of
Lafayette will be remem-
bered fondly within the
overall legacy of 'True
Blood,'" the statement
read. "Nelsan will be
dearly missed by his fans
and all of us at HBO."
"True Blood" creator
Alan Ball called Ellis "a
singular talent whose
creativity never ceased
to amaze me. Working
with him was a privi-
In a 2012 TV interview
in Chicago, Ellis recalled
that it took four audi-
tions for him to nail the
role of Lafayette. At first,
he said, he was playing
the role as a caricature,
and was told to "go back
to the drawing board and
figure it out."
He then began to
channel his mother.
"Once I started to act
like my Mama, my fourth
audition, I got the part,"
Born in Harvey, Illi-
nois, Ellis attended
Thornridge High School,
where he credited teach-
ers with instilling the
craft of theater in him.
He later attended Juil-
liard in New York City.
FILE - In this June 21, 2011 file photo, Nelsan Ellis
arrives at the premiere for the fourth season of HBO's
"True Blood" in Los Angeles. Ellis, best known for
playing the character of Lafayette Reynolds on "True
Blood," has died at the age of 39. Ellis' manager Emily
Gerson Saines confirmed the actor's death in an email
Saturday, July 8, 2017. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles, File)
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