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All hands needed on deck
The Roman Catholic Church
has over the years been quiet-
ly doing its part to make family
life and life in general better in
T&T, but in view of recent hap-
penings and the fact that more
and more people seem somehow
resorting to a belief that money
is their new God, there is need to
rethink the church’s various ap-
proaches to that ideal of making
life better for all of us who call
this land home.
It seems that there is an upsurge
by certain people taking a fancy to
what other people have. Most times
it is money, but big ticket items are
not necessarily left alone during the
multitude of home invasions, now so
commonplace in the country. Jew-
elry, cellphones and other private
documents also form part of the
loot which thieves take with them.
What, with the many murders,
home invasions, robberies, hold-
ups, rapes, banditry and more re-
cently abductions and kidnappings,
the church has no choice but to
become more visible in the social
development of the communities
and by extension the country.
But there os something that is
more worrisome: the large num-
ber of missing girls, runaways who
are found days later. Even more
worrisome, they return home with
some sort of explanation to give
their mothers. Such events hardly
ever happen in a two-parent home.
It is incumbent on the church,
therefore, as an integral part of the
society, to assume its true role in
trying to return T&T to its former
pristine glory, where at the very start
there s some recognition of the fact
that ‘it takes a village to raise a child’.
Once that fact is understood, the
church’s work becomes much easier.
The recent missive by Prime Min-
ister Dr Keith Rowley to reach out
to Opposition Leader Kamla Per-
sad-Bissessar, offers such great
hope for the population. The na-
tion’s leadership will get together
to discuss many of the country’s
woes, and there are many. It signals
that at last our political leadership is
beginning to focus on the welfare of
the people of T&T and not on PNM
or UNC or even the COP.
The church does not get involved
in the cut and thrust of politics. That
is the realm of the politicians and
the political parties. But, the church
is very interested in fairness to the
people regardless of their member-
ship in any political party of their
Many attempts have been made
to compare T&T with other coun-
tries—small and large. Just last Sun-
day, the Mexican Roman Catholic
Church through the Mexican Coun-
cil of Bishops said in an editorial
that the Mexican people cannot
feel safe anywhere, as homicides
rise throughout the country.
“There is not a single corner of
this country where Mexicans can
feel safe and live in peace,” said the
editorial. Sounds very much like
T&T. Doesn’t it? Well this might not
be Mexico or Chicago in the United
States, but the crime rate is surely
taking a toll on life in this country.
So while the church in T&T is do-
ing what it can towards developing
or creating a better society, we call
on the many other groups, charita-
ble and otherwise, to do their part
in alleviating the stress now placed
We want to make life better for all
of our citizens but the Government
cannot do it alone and neither can
the Roman Catholic Church. It is a
job for everybody.
Vernon Khelawan is a columnist
for Catholic Media Services
Ltd (Camsel), the official arm
of the Archdiocese of Port-of-
Spain. It offices are located at 31
Independence Square. Telephone:
3 ways to make a man feel hooked
In an email titled 3 Ways to
Be a Woman Unlike Any Oth-
er In His Life, James Bauer,
relationship coach asked the
following questions: Do you
ever wonder why some men
pick one woman to marry over
all the others? What is it that
makes the chosen one different
from all the other women he’s
When it comes to choosing a
partner for marriage, Bauer gives
an insight from his perspective.
He states that there is a crucial
distinction between dating a girl
and finding the best relationship
with a girl.
Love is an experience. It unfolds
as two people come together and
interact with one another over
Dating is like a chemical reac-
tion whereby you are testing var-
ious combinations until you find
your desired reaction.
The purpose of dating is to ex-
perience what it’s like to be with
different people. We learn what we
like and don’t like.
In the end, we come to under-
stand that the objective qualities
of a person matter less than how
we feel when we’re together.
So how can you make a man
feel hooked from the moment
Here are three ideas. Each one
affects the experience of being in
to new things
There are two things all of us
look for in a new relationship:
•We want to know we have
something in common with the
other person that gives us some-
thing to talk about—the same
TV shows, sporting activities,
hobbies, music or books.
• We want to know we won’t get
bored—You want someone who’s
different enough to you that a re-
lationship will be exciting.
So don’t be afraid of being dif-
ferent to your date. Share your
interests and passions, even if
they’re totally off his radar.
Offer to introduce him to places
he’s never been or activities he’s
never tried. Give your time togeth-
er a dose of novelty, and he’ll find
it hard to forget you.
Back in a different era, men had
to prove themselves while court-
ing a lady. They were expected to
open the door for her and offer her
a hand. A man who didn’t make
these gestures wasn’t a gentleman.
Men today still carry a deep
need to prove themselves to wom-
en. A woman’s high standards
help a man rise to the occasion.
He sees that she’s not going to be
content being treated like every
other woman he’s met.
Only you can decide what
standards feel right to you. But,
once you’ve decided, don’t relax
them simply because you really
Expect a certain standard of be-
haviour from him, and he’ll treat
you the way you deserve.
Let there be silence
We don’t often have time during
a date to check in with how we feel
as we’re too busy talking or being
engrossed in activities. But it’s in
those quiet times when no one is
speaking that we can really sense
how we feel in another person’s
It takes a lot of courage to be
present during a natural pause in
the conversation. It’s tempting to
fill that gap with words or activity.
Silence can be scary because it
reveals the truth about how we
feel. Be courageous. Don’t break
the silence. Give him space to
check in with himself. Check in
with your own feelings, too. How
does it feel to be with him? Is it
After all, the way you feel with
him matters just as much as how
he feels with you. You’re looking
for a relationship that feels good
to you, not a man who looks good
Neither you nor he needs to be
perfect. But you should feel fan-
We should not just pick a per-
son. We should strive to pick the
relationship we have with that
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THE REPUBLIC OF TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO
IN THE HIGH COURT OF JUSTICE
Claim No. CV 2017-00964
SAGICOR LIFE INC.
TAKE NOTICE that this action has been commenced against
2017-00964 in which Sagicor Life Inc., a company reincorporated
under the Companies Act of Barbados Cap. 308, whose registered
of St. Michael, in the Island of Barbados and is registered as an
External Company under the Companies Act, Chap. 81:01 of the
the City of Port-of-Spain, in the Island of Trinidad, claims against
you the following:
2. Interest at such rate as this Honourable Court deems just.
4. Such further and/or other relief as to the Honourable Court
may seem just.
June, 2017 by the Honourable Mr. Justice Aboud the Claimant
the expiration of fourteen (14) days from the date of the second
Street, Port of Spain (tel. 223-1060), Supreme Court, Harris Street,
Bacolet Street, Scarborough, Tobago (tel. 639-2640) (copies of
entering Judgment in default.
Dated the ________ of _______________________ , 2017.
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