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By Christophe Brathwaite
CARE MAGAZINE • 9
BIG BAD WOLF
...you and I know
we cannot protect
them 24/7 as there
are all forms of "THE
BIG BAD WOLF" just
waiting to prey on the
Our first encounter with the
IWANT to take you back to one of the more
memorable learning experiences with us and
our first encounter with the Big Bad Wolf.
It will take us to a place of trust, the impor-
tance of setting the right foundation and to
the pitfalls of the modern day internet and
technology. Both Issy and I share the joy of listening,
singing and dancing to pop tunes on YouTube. Par-
ticularly a young urban dance group of children who
sing child-friendly covers of all the popular Billboard
tunes called Kidz Bop.
It was 2014, my heartbeat (as I fondly call my daugh-
ter) was 5 and I did not have this belly. We had just
finished a round of sing-a-longs with Kidz Bop on
YouTube. She stayed in front the tube while I made
my way to the shower. About three minutes later,
me all soaped up, I heard Rihanna and if you saw the
video you would get why I bolted from the shower,
grabbed my towel, ran down the hall as if the devil
himself was behind me, crashed into the wall, slipped,
slid, did the fireman roll, clutching unto my towel and
at the same time bracing trying to spare my manhood
from untold damage. I came to a crashing halt in the
living room and sprang up dazed and out of breath.
I was greeted by wide open eyes and a bewildering
stare. Through gasping breath, one hand holding the
towel, the other rubbing my knee, I was about to
speak when Issy said:
"Dad I know...I know (in a condescending tone) that
video was inappropriate and I changed it.
Me: (breathing hard) O...k...a...y...g.....ood. Whew... that's
my girl. I turned, limping back to the bathroom.
Issy: (yelled as I made my way down the corridor)
Dad! Daddio..Was all that really necessary?
Me: Yes ... (in my best Dark Vader Voice but in pain)
I AM YOUR FATHER!!!"
The relationship we share is a powerful one where
I try my utmost best to make her feel comfortable
asking questions about any topic, including adult
oriented content and images she may unwittingly
come across. However, you and I know we cannot
protect them 24/7 as there are all forms of "THE BIG
BAD WOLF" just waiting to prey on the innocent. As
Dads, especially the single Dads, we must be eagles
to our children, ever vigilant!!! Know their friends, their
friends' parents, check their bags, communicate with
all of the above, including those we place our trust in
to care for them when we are not able to; teachers,
family, close friends. Have a conversation with your
child anytime they come from another's care whether
it is in school or from the supervision of family.
Our second encounter with the Mr Wolf was of re-
cent vintage and involved the latest "fad" among her
age group - Slime making! Parents, please be wary
that there are inappropriate "How to make SLIME
videos" which try to coerce children to make Slime
at 3 am. The label is "Do not make fluffy slime at
3 a.m. ". There is just so much dangerous stuff out
there. Even if you set the parental block, predators
use children to get around the blocked sites. The
benefits of having conversations in the car and the
importance of checking exactly what she is viewing
is critical and bore fruit on a rainy afternoon pick-up
from school. She went on to tell me about the devil
and Jesus, which I found strange considering she
was watching DIY Slime Videos.
Folks, it is a video by a Roi Roi titled Guava Juice do
not make fluffy Slime at 3 a.m. He lights candles and
also draws a 6 to symbolise you know what. There
is also a little girl in Gothic wear named Ruby Rue
who has a similar video as well, inviting children to
set their alarm at 3 a.m. to wake up to make Slime.
It is also important Dads, because some of us do
get carried away, that we SIT and discuss these
situations with them in the calmest tone possible.
Let them know it is serious business and let them
know they can come to you with any curious situation
that they encounter, without consequence. Meaning,
if they say "Dad this link popped up and I clicked on
it and some inappropriate stuff came up" that you
don't lose your cool and punish them. If you do, trust
me that would be the last time they will come to
you about any such issue. You and I both know we
don't want that.
So let us remain vigilant and protect them at all costs.
P.S YouTube has since been deleted from her su-
pervised laptop - I'm now researching Kids YouTube.
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