Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : May 16th 2013 Contents Avoid corporal punishment
"It s a normal reaction to get angry
when a parent sees his or her child flat
out on the floor lashing out, kicking and
screaming," Matlen said. You might grab
your child or even spank them. But this
only fuels the negative situation and
everyone s emotions, she said.
"Corporal punishment may defuse
the behaviour temporarily---though usu-
ally, it only escalates the negative behav-
iour---but it also sets the tone that it s
OK to hit people when you re angry."
Also, a child needs to "get himself in
Dealing with tantrums is difficult. But
by planning ahead, staying calm and
applying specific strategies, you can
defuse them. And if the tantrum doesn t
quiet, try to ride it out.
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Distract your child
For younger kids, distraction may work, Matlen said.
"Talk about something completely different, like how
excited you are to watch the TV show you planned,
when you all get home."
Give them a time-out
"Sometimes, nothing seems to work, though, and
a child will not stop no matter what you try," Matlen
said. When that happens, calmly explain that they ll
need to go to their room. They can come out after
they ve calmed down. This is a powerful way to learn
self-soothing behaviours, she said. Because of that, it s
important to keep objects that promote healthy coping,
such as a teddy bear or fidget toys, she added.
Ignore the tantrum
"Sometimes the best reaction to a tantrum is no
reaction," said Sarkis, author of several books on ADHD,
including Making the Grade with ADD: A Student s
Guide to Succeeding in College with Attention Deficit
Disorder. That s because "even negative attention is
attention, and it gives a payoff for the behaviour." So
not giving your child an "audience" might help to
lessen the length of the tantrum.
If your child has a tantrum in the middle of the
store---and it s not crowded---let them have the tantrum,
Sarkis said. "You may get looks from others. It s OK.
Just remember that not paying attention to the behaviour
helps extinguish it."
Give them reminders
According to both experts, kids with ADHD have a
hard time with transitions. They can have a meltdown
when it s time to leave the playground or stop playing
their videogame to have dinner, Matlen said.
"Things that are pleasurable are hard to stop, especially
when the transition is into an activity they might not
This is when reminders are key. For instance, remind
your child at 30, 15, ten and five minute intervals that
dinner is ready, Matlen said. Also, establish appropriate
consequences if they don t comply, such as not playing
videogames after dinner, or playing them for 15 minutes
instead of 30 next time, she said. (Or just ban
videogames before dinner altogether, she said.)
Matlen gave this example of what to say to your
child: "I know it s hard for you to stop playing your
PlayStation when it s time for dinner. I will give you
reminders so that you can wind down. However, having
a tantrum is not acceptable, so if that happens, you
will (fill in the blank)."
Praise your child when they do show self-control
"Parents need to catch their kids being good much
more than they catch them being bad, " Sarkis said.
"Children with ADHD respond well to positive rein-
forcement." Plus, "whatever you focus on grows," she
added. According to Matlen, instead of saying, "You
are such a good boy for not having a meltdown when
I said no to ice cream," a better response would be,
"You must have really felt proud of yourself that you
didn t have a tantrum when you saw that we were out
of cookies---good job!"
ADHD Children respond well to positive reinforcement
Knowing what triggers your child, Matlen said, can
help you defuse their tantrum as early as possible.
It's a normal reaction to get angry when a parent sees his or her child flat out on
the floor lashing out, kicking and screaming. You might grab your child or even
spank them. But this only fuels the negative situation and everyone's emotions.
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