Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : June 28th 2013 Contents I once made an unfair, accusatory
remark in an argument with a
boyfriend to which he took umbrage
and exploded, asking me, "Who am
I speaking with, Caro or Caroline?"
He insisted on my answering because
he said there was one of us he d always
At a later stage, when he was more
attuned to my sudden outbursts, he
would say, "I have to remember you
are not always responsible for what you
say and it s not always Caro who s
I ve been comfortable for a long time
with my avatars. I ve embodied Car-
oline, who mirrors my uneven equi-
librium, and Miss Ravello, the brief-
But Caro is the gem among them.
She is the humorous, gregarious and
gracious one whom I wish on every
person I meet.
Caro is didactic and can speak con-
fidently on numerous subjects; she s
poised, with the bearing of sovereigns
and the consummate decorum for
which her mother, Theresa, and her
mentor, Aunt Agatha, are well known.
Of her they say, "She thinks she knows
everything," and they come close to the
actuality of a gift bestowed on me,
which endows me with remarkable
She is an amazing housemother, and
a very productive woman of great worth
who would be an asset in any situa-
Caroline is another character, who
has little regard for any authority when
she manifests. She, some say, is a reflec-
tion of her father, Oliver Ravello, who
would cuss the wind if it bothered his
ear. She is a sullied, pampered, impa-
tient version of someone you think you
know. I make apologies for her because
in the main, she means well, but for
her it often falls apart and tumbles out
Many people who know and
love me would be nodding in
agreement at this point.
I am not schizophrenic. I m one
person with other manifestations
or expressions of the inner self. If
we were talking church, it d be
akin to being "in the spirit," and
had it been traditional religion
you d call it a "manifestation" as
of one deity or another and you d
So, if we can become as com-
fortable with the existence of oft-
times dual, non-violent person-
alities in some mentally ill people
and not be fearful of either one
we would probably become more
open to giving that community
the love and intimacy it needs.
For me, the prospect is exciting.
Most people I know are thrill-
seekers, so what could be better
than dating two personalities with-
out being unfaithful?
I m labouring the point of being
in love as, or with, the mentally
ill, using my life in a campaign
supporting such engagements and
seeking to encourage those within
and without my community who
remain sceptical about long-term
I am emphasising the need for
fidelity too, because we come in
two-for-one banded packages
where a spouse or partner would
need to dedicate ample time to us.
And to my mind, monogamy
seems to be the best circumstance
for any relationship.
But mainly, it s important to bear
in mind that often the spouse with
a mental-health condition comes
with trust issues.
Understand that without any
attempt at including you or anyone
in my life, I m already interacting
with my selves. It stands to reason,
then, that my life is so full of intri-
cacies that my mental space cannot
play the game of infidelity---or any
other game, for that matter, in
which people participate in the
name of love.
I know very well and appreciate
the delicate intimacies and the
intense, romantic feelings of being
in love. I love who I become when
I m in love. I live for the cherished
moments. Indeed, the mentally ill
person is equally interested in
experiencing pleasurable and
deeply rewarding experiences of
love and sex. We understand clearly
that to have a romantic partner
means we stay well for both of us.
Of the movie Silver Linings
Playbook, writes Rebecca Rogers
Maher, "it took hospitalisation,
medication, therapy, a dedicated
family and a group of loving friends
to help the hero and heroine get
stable. Finding each other helped
too. One, because it does make a
difference to love and be loved by
someone who sees, relates to, and
accepts your (messed-up) brain.
And two, because love and sex
open us up and help us know and
come to terms with ourselves.
"A combination of real love and
intense sex will totally unravel and
lay us bare. It just will. And that s
a really good thing, I think. Exam-
ined, it can be totally freeing. To
be laid bare, to express what you
feel, to have that heard and accept-
ed by another human being---that
is beautiful, and worth looking at.
"If only fully stable people got
to be in love, there d be a hell of
a lot of single folks out there. In
a word, crazy people need love too.
(I include myself lovingly in that
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It's like love on a two-way street
MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS
So, if we can become as comfortable with the existence of oft-
times dual, non-violent personalities in some mentally ill
people and not be fearful of either one we would probably
become more open to giving that community the love and
intimacy it needs.
CAROLINE C RAVELLO
A new study sug-
gests a particular type
of mental training can
help to reduce stress
training, a technique
that develops sus-
tained attention that
can change the ways
people think, act and
feel, is an effective
method to promote
wellness in school
Mindfulness is a
adults for enhancing
health and well-being.
In the study, found
online in the British
Journal of Psychiatry,
researchers found that
interventions to reduce
stress in children have
the biggest impact at
this time of year.
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