Home' Trinidad and Tobago Guardian : October 4th 2013 Contents 6 Friday, October 4, 2013 • Issue 108
1. Travel outside of your country
2. Learn another language (at least be able to read or write if not fluently
3. Sex in public (be adventurous!)
4. Learn to cook an exotic dish (romance)
5. Own a passport (of course, how will you travel without one)
6. Take a sexy picture for your lover (sexy, not vulgar!!! #noinstagram #noface
7. Test drive an exotic car
8. Conquer a fear
9. Read a classic novel - twice (The Great Gatsby and Wuthering Heights are
10. Learn to use knife and fork -- together
11. Fight for a Cause (there are many Causes out there: cancers, women'
rights, child labour, etc. You can't go through life not fighting for
12. Chart your family tree
13. Make love in the rain
14. Own a formal dress
15. Invest in a great pair of black dress shoes
16. Create a sound financial investment -- invest in stocks, bonds or small
17. Invest in an awesome table setting
18. Try a sex toy with your partner (or alone!)
19. Take a lonely vacation (spend time with oneself can be refreshing and im
portant to move on)
20. Learn to love yourself!
21. Fall in Love
Today I'm going to talk about
something a little different. I'm
going to talk about our parents and
how little we truly appreciate them
till it's too late.
Think about it for a second. If you tried to
tabulate every cent your parents spent on
you over the span of their lifetimes, they
would probably be millionaires if they had
kept that money for themselves. MILLION-
AIRES! We never truly appreciate what our
parents went through for us or the sacri-
fices they made for us in our lifetimes.
Many people wait till Mother's or Father's
day to say what they should be saying all
through the year. I'm not saying that every
parent is the ideal of parenthood, but those
that are need to be appreciated while
they're still here.
My father died when I was very young
and my mother had two choices. You have
to understand. My father was the sun and
the moon of my mother. She never remar-
ried or dated anyone because to this day be-
cause no man could ever live up to my
father's ideal and his image in her eyes and
she never wanted to bring a strange person
into our lives. There were five of us at the
time and one small business left to her to
run. She had two choices. Give up or get up.
My mother not only got up, she started a
new business that became one of the most
successful travel agencies in Trinidad and
Tobago. She put everyone through college
and helped most of us start up businesses
of our own and be able to stand on our own
Now she's getting older and the thought
that one day I won't get calls from her ask-
ing me to drop off a piece of melon for her
or help her figure out why her Skype isn't
working properly are slowly starting to sink
in. We all think our parents are immortal be-
cause they've been there for so long we just
can't conceive of them not being around,
but the truth is that one day, they won't.
One day we're going to wake up and realise
no more phone calls. No more drives for
nuggets while she gleefully steals my fries
when I'm not looking. No more laughter at
herself and us because we made he use
what she considers to be a bad word. No
more Sunday lunches where we keep prom-
ising to come and learn how to make our
stew chicken taste the same as hers.
I realise now that I've never truly appreci-
ated my mother enough or what she did for
me. My only regret is that it took me this
long to do that. That I had to wait till it was
close to the end of her life to suddenly re-
alise just how important she is in mine.
So my message is simple.
Tell them how you feel. Show them how
you feel. Show up with a bunch of flowers in
your hand for your mother and, when she
asks you what the occasion is, simply tell
her because you wanted her to know you
think about her every day. Give your father a
hug and maybe a tool kit you noticed in a
store and when he asks you what's wrong,
tell him nothing. Tell him you just wanted
him to know that you appreciate him. Hug
them spontaneously and never leave the
house without giving them a kiss on the
cheek or forehead. Depending on how tall
you are compared to them.
And love them as MUCH as you can now.
Tears at a grave site later on are no replace-
ment for love right here and now.
I gotta go now. I have to go get some ba-
nanas for her before she calls me again to
say I'm starving her.
21Inanna Jourdan Joseph
YOUR PARENTS TODAY
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