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IF YOU COULD pass along just one
life lesson --- no matter what your
age --- what would it be? I stum-
bled across some great life lessons
(www.reginabrett.com) who has
come up with a life lesson for each
year she has been alive. She's in
her 50s now.
Like all of us, her lessons are a re-
flection on her personal struggles.
For her it was about a bumpy
childhood, being a single parent,
her struggle to find the right part-
ner in life and her battle with
Instead of defeat and negativity,
our obstacles can give us all wis-
dom and insights. They also can
help other people if we share them.
Here are just five of her Life Les-
sons we all can benefit from.
. u t, u t t t
t t .
I love this lesson! Any action is bet-
ter than inaction. Taking any step,
even if it's small, can lead to a mo-
mentum of more action. And on
days that are really rough, you can
just breathe and ask yourself,
"Okay, what's next?" A tiny step in
the right direction can do wonders
for your mental state. You can
make progress in any aspect of
your life if you just put one foot in
front of the other. It may sound
cliché, but it's true. Keep moving
. t t t t
t u u t.
This lesson is so true and applies
to so many people. Too often peo-
ple get stuck in something painful
or hurtful about their past and use
it as the basis for excuses well into
the future. There's a saying, "Face
the darkness, stare it down and
own it." That's what you should do
with your past. Face it. Tackle it.
Own it. Depending on what you
need to forgive or process it may
take you a short time or years, but
if you confront it head on and get
ahead of it, you can tremendously
impact your entire life in a positive
way. You can live in the present in-
stead of the past.
. t u t
You have no idea what their jour-
ney is all about. There are all sorts
of problems in comparing yourself
to others. First, it takes the focus
off of YOU, and that's where your
focus should be. Secondly, compar-
ing yourself to others is never ac-
curate because things can look a
whole lot different on the surface
than they are in reality. You can
idealise someone and admire
some aspect of their lives that you
wish you had, but you probably
don't have the entire story. Com-
paring your life to others is losing
valuable energy that could go into
getting your own life to where you
want it to be. Don't waste your
mental energy on comparisons.
Think about what you love about
your own life and how to create
more things in your life that you
love. Gratitude for who you are and
all of your own life blessings is the
key to quitting the comparisons!
. t t t t t
u u .
Clutter weighs you down in many
ways. Compared to some of the
other lessons, this one may sound
light, but it is more significant than
you might think. My husband may
tell you I'm on the extreme side
since I am a major reduce-clutter
freak --- but if your closet is jam
packed, you have junk drawers you
can barely open, papers piling up,
and you feel like you've become an
accidental collector of things, re-
ducing all that clutter can dramat-
ically lighten up how you feel
mentally. Don't hang on to things
just to hang on to things. Filter
everything with the question: Do I
really love it? If you don't, recycle
or donate and fill your home only
with the things you love the most.
Imagine looking around your home,
your closet, your garage, your desk
and liking everything you see?
. t t t t .
But it's all up to you and no one
else. I love this because it goes
back to personal responsibility.
When I talk to people about losing
weight or setting other goals, I tell
them to leave their excuses be-
hind. Don't blame your unhappi-
ness on external circumstances,
past events, other people, bad ge-
netics or anything that isn't YOU.
Stop with the justifications and ex-
cuses. It may sound like a little
tough love (and maybe it is!) but
you are solely responsible for how
your life turns out and whether
you are happy. You can choose
happiness but the only way to get
there is to first take complete re-
sponsibility for your own life.
C t t fit
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t t t -
, u t t t
t t t C t :
A - u t B tt t !
By Chris Freytag
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