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"Self-mastery is the one true path to
effective employee performance."
It is imperative to be able to manage
yourself effectively in order to achieve self-
mastery if you wish to live your best life,
not just at the office, but in your personal
life. Here are six principles that are essen-
tial for making successful changes and for
living your best life, in and out of the work-
Create a sanctuary of peace
I hope that you already have a workspace
that is functional, well-organised and con-
ducive to a high level of performance. How-
ever, in today s challenging world, it is also
a necessity for you to have a safe space that
is preferably away from the office where
you can look forward to going; one where
you know there is unconditional love and,
one where no client, secretary or supervisor
will follow you.
Change the way you communicate
Having someone give you her or his undi-
vided attention by listening to what you
have to say can be magical. Think about
how many opportunities we miss on a daily
basis to make the people in our lives feel
worthy, respected, valued, and loved because
we do not listen as well as we can, or should.
Listening can be therapeutic and is an essen-
tial skill that will enhance your life personally
Connect with others
Sometimes, we do not realise how impor-
tant human interaction is until we do not
have it for a time. We communicate much
more with our eyes, our body language and
the energy that is generated when we have
Self-mastery key to living your best life
meaningful interactions that this is hard to replace.
The way in which we connect is different for all of
us and this is fine, but we must connect if we are
to live to our fullest capacity. We cannot sit and wait
to connect with others. We need to be proactive and
seek out others in healthy and appropriate ways.
Maximise your 24 hours
In my counselling/coaching practice I have observed
and saw many employees and supervisors who were
continually busy, but who really have had unproductive
days. Many supervisors have learned to look at an
employee s productivity and achievements instead
of just the number of hours they spend at work.
They have recognised that there are unnecessary
phone calls, unwanted visits because of an open
office door, unproductive meetings, meaningless con-
versations and other time wasters. Here are some
• Prioritise your daily tasks---have an organised
approach to your day
• Take advantage of your most productive time(s)
of each day
• Take short breaks as needed; know yourself
• Celebrate your progress---cross things off as they
• Be flexible; reassess and revise your tasks as nec-
• Maintain a sense of humour and incorporate
some fun into your day
• Do try to get at least eight hours of sleep---you
will achieve more the following day
Manage stress for success
With the scarcity of time and the transformation
to an era of technology and globalisation, comes
increased stress and anxiety about almost everything
in today s competitive and complex environment. I
have created some practical guidelines to help you
manage your stress and make changes in your lifestyle:
• Identify your stressors!
• Manage the stressors you can control---get support
and/or develop an action plan for those that make
you feel powerless.
• Surround yourself with a team that you consider
to be efficient and dependable.
• Clarify your expectations and take the time to
address sensitive issues before they escalate.
• Get enough sleep and physical activity.
• Plan your day to provide some work/life balance.
Become an excellent self-manager!
Eat well and exercise
The research tells us that walking is one of the
best forms of exercise, that if you walk for half-an-
hour, three or four times a week, this can decrease
your stress and increase your lifespan. Now, this is
not to say that other forms of exercise like swimming,
going to the gym, cycling, running and mountain/hill
climbing are any less valuable. The important thing
is to find the methods that fit your lifestyle, ones
that will not make you dread the event and the time
it takes you away from your busy schedule.
Now is the time to do some self-examination and
take action to preserve a life that is not only good
but one that can be great. Take the time to create
and live your best life! After all, "Self Mastery is the
one true path to good health, joyful living, inner
peace, and great cash-flow."
Dr Monica Starke is a lifestyle coach/counsellor
and an OD (Organisational Development)
consultant who works with teenagers, adults,
families and organisations. Please contact her at
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